The way a man texts you can not only reveal some of the biggest red flags in the book, it can also clue you in on what his deal is when you just can’t seem to figure it out otherwise. If you aren’t sure whether he’s into you or what, pay attention to how he texts because if you notice any of the following, things aren’t looking good:
The one-word response. A one-word text is the death of any conversation. If a guy wants to keep talking to you, he won’t halt all conversation. Men who are interested keep it going and eventually direct the convo into an in-person meeting. If you’re only getting back the occasional “lol,” “yeah,” or “k,” it’s probably time to move on.
He takes forever to text the hell back. He might be busy — aren’t we all? — but going days on end with no reply doesn’t mean he’s just caught up at work. If he wanted to talk to you, he’d find the 60 seconds (or less) necessary to type out a quick message to let you know that even though he’s swamped, he’s thinking of you.
He only hits you up when he’s bored. He has nothing better going on, so why not? He has you on the hook and this is how he keeps you there. Just when you think you’ll never hear from him again, your phone vibrates and there he is. Instantly you forget the fact that he forgot about you, because if he’s texting you now, he must be interested, right? Wrong.
Those three little dots disappear, never to return. Ellipses go straight into radio silence. What you don’t realize is his silence says it all. He thought about replying but quickly changed his mind. He saw your message and he’s choosing to ignore it. If that doesn’t tell you he’s not interested, what will?
He leaves his read receipts on. You see the message delivered and then it tells you he read it, but is he texting you back? Nope. He saw it and he’s still choosing not to reply. He telling you he’s not interested without actually having to say the words. It’s pretty rude and immature, yeah, but it’s telling you he’s not interested pretty loud and clear.
He doesn’t use any emojis. He’s not flirting. There is no emotion here. He’s keeping things plain and simple because your relationship is plain and simple. He’s not interested in anything more than booty call. You can keep sending flirty faces his way, but the sentiment goes unreturned for a reason.
He simply doesn’t text back. Ever. It’s not that he’s taking a long time. His phone isn’t broken; your messages are going through. You can try to come up with every excuse in the book, but the fact is, he’s ghosting you. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you can move on to a guy who’s not a complete waste of time.
He doesn’t check in when you haven’t talked in a few days. A man who’s interested will hit you up just to see how you’re doing. He wants to know about your day and when he can see you next. A man who’s only interested in sex only texts you when he wants just that. He doesn’t care about your day or your life. If it’s been days since you’ve seen each other and you haven’t heard from him, there’s probably a reason.
He never texts just to text. If the guy likes you then he’s not just texting you to hang out. He’s sending you random texts with stuff he thinks is funny, carrying on whatever conversation you have going or initiating a new one, or checking in just to see how you are. He doesn’t make you do all the legwork. He wants to hear from you. If he likes you then he’s thinking about you, and if he’s thinking about you, he’s texting you. It’s as simple as that.
You always make the first move. Sure, maybe he’ll hit you up when he wants to hook up or when he has nothing better to do, but usually you’re the one to send the first message. You want to see him whenever wherever or even just talk. You’re desperate and it’s showing. Deep down you know he’s just not that into you, but that only makes you want him more. It’s time to face the truth, though, because when it comes to dating, the texts don’t lie.
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