If You’re Worried You’re Going To Be Single Forever, Read This

Sometimes you’re so single that it feels like it will never end. You don’t even remember the last time you had held a guy’s hand, had a decent kiss or even any reasonable prospects. You want to keep your hopes up that love is out there waiting for you, but it’s difficult. If you’re pretty sure you’re going to be single forever and you’re spinning out about it, stop. Before you go any deeper into the abyss, take some time to remember these things.

  1. It’s all about perspective. Single is your current situation, and you can’t magically wish it away. Why not make the most of it instead? Be as selfish with your time as you want to be. Do everything you always wished you could do when you were dating those guys who weren’t right for you. Live your life fully instead of feeling sorry for yourself.
  2. Your single status is temporary — take advantage of it. You’re not going to be single forever, as much as you might think you will sometimes. You’ll meet someone when you least expect it, and then you’ll look back and regret all that time you wasted worrying about something you couldn’t control. Live in the moment. Live in the present. Don’t try to predict the future because you can’t.
  3. You’ll miss it when it’s gone. Trust me, you will. Look back at all the times you were unhappy in relationships and wished you could have your single life back. Well, you got your wish, didn’t you? The grass is always greener on the other side, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Change the way you view your single life and you’ll be amazed at how content you can be.
  4. It won’t last forever. Really. It feels like it will, and of course, you can’t actually know when it will end. It might be a while; it could end tomorrow. You have no idea. Either way, you have to enjoy the life you’re living now. If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship either.
  5. You have an amazing life already. If you look around and take it all in, you’ll realize what a beautiful life you have. You’ll attract what you’re giving out. If you are enchanted with your own life and comfortable in your skin, you’ll get the kind of guy you want. If you’re living miserably day in and out, dissatisfied and bitter, you’ll attract that kind of energy instead.
  6. If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship. Again, this is very true. You have to be in love with yourself before you truly love a man. There are reasons that your past relationships haven’t worked out. Take this time alone to examine why and to figure out what’s going wrong. You can shape your own destiny, believe it or not. By becoming complete and happy and grounded on your own, you can figure out the man you really want in your life.
  7. Maybe you just need a change of scene. Why are you single? It could be entirely circumstantial. It could be environmental. You might just not get out enough or run in the social circles where you’ll meet the men you want. What are you interested in? Try to meet other people in that area and network. You definitely won’t find the guy you’re interested in by sitting alone on your couch every night. Poor dude is out there waiting and you’re just hiding from him!
  8. You have to be proactive. If you have problem patterns in relationships, identify them now. Work on your own issues. Maybe you’re scared to get out there and meet guys and potentially have your heart broken. No one likes disappointment, but thinking that way is counterproductive. You have to figure out where you need to go and what you need to do in order to meet the men you want to date. You can’t worry that you’re going to be single forever if you’re not doing anything to change it.
  9. The sooner you stop worrying about it, the easier it’ll be. There’s an idea. You’re wasting all this time and energy trying to solve a problem that might simply need to be left alone. Focus on positive aspects of your life and trust that you’re where you’re meant to be. Manifest what you want to happen and it just might.
  10. The happier and more confident you are, the more likely you are to attract the right man. No one wants to approach the bitter girl in the corner drinking too much and getting aggravated. Expand your universe, go get what you want, and take control of your future. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who is in control of her life. If you give off an aura of confidence, happiness, and kindness, everyone will want to be around you.
  11. It may take a while. This is the brutal truth. Your love may not be right around the corner. Maybe you just aren’t ready yet and don’t even know it. When it does happen for you, you will know and you will understand why it took so long. It’ll all make sense eventually. You might not be single forever, but you might be single for a while longer. Be patient.
  12. You’re better off waiting for someone who’s worth it. Yeah, yeah, yeah – you’ve heard it all before. It’s true, though! Why waste time with that guy you know isn’t the one? Just to pass the time? You have better things to do. You might miss out on your real man if you’re distracted by some player. Don’t get caught up in the trap of being bored and lonely and wanting someone random to focus on.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.