10 Easy Ways To Get Someone To Ask For Your Number

10 Easy Ways To Get Someone To Ask For Your Number

Let’s face it, in today’s dating scene, finding the right moment to exchange numbers can be a bit of a puzzle. You’ve met someone amazing, and you’re eager to take things to the next level, but you want it to happen naturally. Well, you’re in luck! We’ve got some down-to-earth and practical tips that’ll help you create the perfect opportunity for them to ask for your number without any pressure or awkwardness. So, whether you’re a seasoned dater or just looking for a fun connection, read on for some genuine advice that can make those digit exchanges feel effortless.

1. Show genuine interest in the conversation.

If you want someone to ask for your number, first show that you’re actually interested in what they have to say. Engage in the conversation, ask questions, and really listen to their answers. It’s not about pretending to be interested; it’s about finding a genuine connection point that can make them think, “Hey, I’d like to talk to this person more.” People are more likely to want to keep in touch if they feel you’re truly engaged in what they’re sharing.

2. Drop a few subtle hints.

Sometimes, a little hinting is necessary. You might say something like, “I’ve really loved talking to you,” or “I’d love to tell you more about that sometime.” It’s a way of subtly indicating that you’re open to further communication without outright asking them to call or text you. If they’re feeling you, this should get them to ask for your number pretty quickly.

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4. Let your personality shine.

Whether you’re hilarious, thoughtful, quirky, or passionate about certain topics, let these traits be visible. People are drawn to authenticity and individuality. If they find your personality intriguing or attractive, they’re more likely to want to get to know you better. Don’t dull your shine or make the mistake of trying to play it cool — be authentically you. That’s the version that sparkles.

5. Make sure your body language is on point.

Your body language says a lot about your interest in the conversation and in the person you’re talking to. Maintain eye contact, smile, and face them directly. This non-verbal communication can signal your interest and make you more approachable. If they feel comfortable and notice you’re genuinely engaged, they might be inclined to take the next step and ask for your number.

6. Find a reason to stay in touch.

Sometimes, you need to give them a reason to want your number. Maybe you’ve talked about a common interest, like a movie you both want to see or a book you’ve mentioned. You could say, “I’d love to hear your thoughts on it after you check it out.” It creates a natural opening for future conversations.

7. Be confident but not overbearing.

Confidence is attractive, but there’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance, and if you want to get someone to ask for your number, you need to know the difference. Be self-assured when you speak, but also be humble and considerate of their space and opinions. If they see you as confident yet respectful, they might feel more compelled to keep the connection going.

8. End the conversation on a high note.

Leave them wanting more. If the conversation is going really well, it’s sometimes a good idea to wrap it up before it runs out of steam. This leaves the interaction on a positive note, and they might be more likely to think, “I wish I could keep talking to this person,” and then take the initiative to ask for your number.

9. Have a memorable exit line.

Sometimes what you say last can make a lasting impression. Come up with a memorable exit line that leaves them smiling or thinking. It could be a witty remark, a funny joke, or a thoughtful comment related to your conversation. This can make your encounter memorable and might prompt them to want to continue the interaction by getting your number.

10. Mention something fun that’s coming up.

Casually bring up an event, a new cafe opening, or a movie you’re looking forward to in the near future. This can act as a subtle invitation for them to express interest in joining you or at least continuing the conversation about it later. It’s a natural way to suggest there’s an opportunity to meet up again without directly asking them out.

11. Follow each other on social media

As sad as it is, sometimes social media can be a less intimidating step than directly exchanging phone numbers. You could mention an interesting post or something related to your conversation on your social media. This could encourage them to connect with you online first, which could later lead to them asking for your number.

Gail is Bolde's social media and partnership manager, as well as an all-around behind-the-scenes renaissance woman. She worked for more than 25 years in her city's local government before making the switch to women's lifestyle and relationship sites, initially at HelloGiggles before making the switch to Bolde.