Have you ever wondered what it will feel like when you finally meet your person? I’m not talking about a fairytale, princess-meets-prince kind of experience, but the real raw emotions and feelings you have when you meet someone that you know you want to spend the rest of your life with. The feelings you experience when you’re in love can be intense. From the super highs to the down lows and everything in between, here are some of the feelings you’ll experience when you meet “The One.”
- Overwhelming excitement You’ve just met the love of your life, and even though things are only just beginning, you KNOW this one is different. You feel happy in a way you can only remember feeling as a child, and the whole world seems like the magical place it did back then.
- Schoolgirl giddiness How often have you found yourself squealing on the phone with your friends and family, dancing around your apartment without a care in the world and acting just a little bit silly and childish? Some of the things you’ll do when you’re falling in love are a little embarrassing, but you just can’t help yourself!
- Intense anxiety Not everyone feels the nerves creep in when they finally meet their soulmate, but many of us do. Falling in love also means becoming vulnerable, and this isn’t always an easy thing to do. Plus, what if you do something to mess it up? What if he doesn’t feel the same? AHHH! Thankfully, this feeling tends to wear away to comfort and security over time, but the fact that you do feel it at all shows just how much this — and he — means to you.
- Butterflies What happens when nerves and joy coincide? Butterflies! You feel a happy kind of nervousness when you think of him, when you go to meet him for dinner, when you talk to him on the phone. It makes you feel alive, and you’re so thankful to be because it means you met him. It sounds so corny but there’s no denying that your stomach does somersaults at the mere thought of him. It just happens!
- Energetic and alive Things take a lot less effort to do when you’re happy and excited about your life. You feel more energetic and enthusiastic, and yes, your friends and family notice! Suddenly, getting up for work in the morning isn’t quite as painful as it used to be because it’s another opportunity to speak to him.
- Invincible, like you can take on the world When you’ve finally met “The One,” your confidence skyrockets. You’ll lose (at least during the honeymoon period) all those negative thoughts that used to occupy your mind. No more, “I’ll never find someone who loves me as much as I love them” kind of lark. You’ve got this on lock and nothing can stop you.
- Incredibly lucky I don’t want to sound corny, but #blessed is just kind of the perfect hashtag for this feeling that you’ll experience when you’re finally in the right relationship. You know a lot of people search for years to find “The One” and many never do. The fact that you have makes you wonder what you did to deserve this. You don’t know, but you’re glad it’s happened.
- Unprecedented levels of passion So that’s where your sex drive had gone. You used to think that maybe you just weren’t much of a sexual person or that it’s natural for libido to take a nosedive, but all that’s changed since you met him. Suddenly, you can’t get close enough to him enough times in the day or week to feel satisfied. It’s a whole new level of pleasure that you get to explore together.
- Ridiculously inspired Your work becomes more creative and your ideas start flowing. Suddenly, you start seeing aspects of the world around you that you never had before, and it’s a beautiful thing. You begin thriving in your career and passions in ways that you haven’t in a long time and it’s because you feel so refreshed.
- Finally free It’s like an unknown weight has been lifted from your shoulders. Life somehow just doesn’t feel as hard anymore — maybe because you know that you’ll have someone at your side now. You know you can rely on him to be your biggest cheerleader and supporter and because of that, you feel like you could take on the world.
How you’ll know when you meet “The One”
Now that you know the incredible emotions you have to look forward to when you finally meet your person, but what are the signs that they’re the one for you in the first place? How do you know that he’s not just another short-term fling and that he has real potential to go the distance? You’ll have to keep your eyes peeled for these signs.
- You want the same things in life. You can’t actually say that a guy is “The One” if your goals and future plans are completely at odds. If you feel a strong pull to him and feel like your lives gel well together because you want the same things — marriage, kids, a family, a home, etc. — that’s a good sign.
- Things just seem to work. You don’t have to overanalyze anything, you’re not chasing him or vice versa, there’s no miscommunication. You’re pretty much on the same page from the outset, and it’s actually pretty refreshing. “When you’ve found The One, the relationship just flows. Things are fairly easy. You understand each other’s viewpoints and perceptions, and either accept them or feel the same way,” explains eHarmony’s Chief of Advice, Jeannie Assimos.
- Your whole life seems to make a lot more sense. Maybe you’ve been through so many failed relationships that you were beginning to feel directionless in life, like you’d end up alone and lonely forever. Then you meet “The One” and everything changes. There’s a reason for that, according to psychotherapist and relationship coach Rachel Dack. “Being in a relationship with the right person creates a different mindset than being chronically single or in a miserable relationship,” she says. “There’s a natural adjustment in the way you think about the world as you transition from making individual decisions to joint decisions that involve compromise and taking your partner’s needs, wants, and desires into account.”
- You feel free to be your weird, authentic self. How many relationships have you been in where you felt like you had to pretend to be their version of an ideal partner? How often did you feel like you couldn’t truly let your hair down and let your freak flag fly, so to speak, because your partner just wouldn’t “get it” and you worried they might stop loving you? When you meet “The One,” you’ll never have to worry about that again. They don’t just allow you to be who you truly are, they encourage it. They love your weird little quirks because they have plenty of their own and that’s what makes it so great.
- You’ve been through something major together and come out stronger. Sadly, life likes to throw some real BS our way sometimes and how we deal with it with our partners says a lot. If you’ve dealt with a traumatic event together — death, miscarriage, some other kind of loss — and it not only hasn’t destroyed you but has secured your connection even further and brought you closer together, it’s clear that you two are the real deal.
- He challenges you in the right ways. Is there anything worse than stagnation? The feeling that you’re not growing or learning can lead you to become bored and unhappy with your relationship, but thankfully, that’s not a problem when you meet “The One.” This person encourages you to be your best self and together, you push each other to evolve and continue growing. “A soulmate isn’t always wrapped in the perfect package, physically or in terms of life circumstances — nor does it mean that the relationship will come without challenge,” The Love Architect founder Kailen Rosenberg says. “Yet, the difference is that the life circumstances and the difficult challenges are a strengthening power that becomes the glue that keeps you together through the difficult times and helps each of you become your most authentic self.”
- He feels like home. Sometimes instead of a list of concrete signs, you just need to go with your gut and your heart. What are they telling you? If you feel deep down inside that this is the man you’re meant to spend forever with and that he’s your person, you’re probably right. Intuition is a powerful thing and just like the old saying goes, “when you know, you know.”