It’s easy to catch feels for someone but not easy to throw them away. Sometimes, it feels like you’re stuck in the crazy feelings of love even when the person has rejected you or broken up with you. It sucks to be carrying a torch for them when they’re not yours! You might worry you’re going to feel for them forever, but don’t worry, you won’t. You can speed up the process of getting over them by following these 10 tips.
1. Look The Truth Head-On.
Now’s not the time to think of all the good times you’ve shared with the person. Nope, that’s not gonna help. You should focus on the truth and reality of the situation or person. Maybe they had serious commitment issues and were leading you on, or they just didn’t love you enough. Face the truth and it’ll be easier to process it and move on.
2. Realize They’re Not Right For You.
Instead of feeling bad about how much you love the person or feeling depressed because they left you, turn the situation around. Don’t think of how you’ve lost them – think about why they’re not suitable for you. They’re not capable of meeting your needs and wants. If they were, they’d be with you now. It’s really that simple, but sometimes we tend to forget it.
3. Work On Your Baggage — Sweetn can help with that.
If you’re holding onto feelings for this person because there are issues in your past that make it harder to let go, now’s the time to work on them. Our sister company, Sweetn, can help with that. They use research-backed advice, tips, and tricks to help you overcome our limiting beliefs and form healthier relationship patterns. Check them out here.
4. Remember They’re Not Thinking About You.
As part of facing the reality of the situation instead of glossing over it, you can also remember that they’re out there living their life and having fun. Yes, it’s hard to think about, but why should you be obsessing about them? It’s wasted thought and energy that you could be putting somewhere more productive, like on your bright future. Honestly, they’re the one missing out!
5. Block Them Even If It Hurts.
Don’t torture yourself by checking their social media profiles so you can feel bad about how hot they look when working out at the gym or feel down when they look like they’re having fun with their mates. It’s time to block them. You might feel weird that you’re not going to be able to check what they’re doing daily, but it’ll make you feel better. Outta sight, outta mind. You need space for yourself right now.
6. Catch Yourself In Self-Blame.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of blaming yourself. Maybe you weren’t funny/interesting enough to keep the person interested in you. Whatever. Don’t believe that you’re to blame. Sometimes things just happen and don’t work out. When those self-blaming thoughts strike, challenge them. Remember your self-worth and what makes you valuable. Just ’cause this person’s not in your life, it doesn’t mean they should take all your good traits with them.
7. Cry If You Need To Cry.
Don’t just ignore your feelings. You’re going through a lot and need to get over this person, so it’s time to bring on the tears. Listen to Taylor Swift or Adele and cry it out. Give yourself 10 minutes to have a good cry, then fix your eyeliner and go back to your day. Bawling is healthy, but putting a limit on how much you cry will prevent you from wallowing in the sadness.
8. Put Yourself First.
You might feel awkward when trying to forget about the person who’s been taking up so much space in your head. But now you get to fill it up with new, exciting things. Put yourself number one on your list and focus on what you want and need to be happy right now. You’ll see that life can be fun without this person, even if you don’t believe it yet.
9. Meet Other People (But Don’t Date).
It might be the last thing you want to do, but it can really help you to get out there and meet some new people. Socialize and have fun, without trying to hook up with anyone. This will boost your confidence after a breakup while helping you to see that there are tons of people out there who are fun to be around. What’s-their-face isn’t the center of your universe.
10. Indulge In Heartbreak Material.
It can help you to gain comfort from, and learn more about yourself by, reaching for art that features heartbreak-related themes. Listen to podcasts about relationships and breakups, read self-help books, or do some creative art to get your feelings out. Whatever the case, this will help you deal and make you feel less alone when you’re swamped by your difficult emotions.
11. Expect The Best And Forget The Rest.
While it can take time to get over someone, and you shouldn’t expect results overnight, put the Kleenex down and think about how amazing your future’s going to be. Expect that the best things are yet to come, and you’ll manifest them. Think about how loving this person was restricting you, such as by preventing you from taking a vacation or pursuing your dreams, and do those things now. You’re in control, so where do you wanna go?
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