Emotional pins and needles — that’s how the first few weeks of dating a guy feel because you’re dying to know if he’s going to make things official with you or not. If not, you want to move on so you don’t waste your time — but how long should you wait in dating purgatory?
A Google Consumer Survey by Mic found that the most common time in which couples have “The Talk” about relationship exclusivity is within four weeks of dating. There’s obviously no specific time limit because everyone’s different, but if you’ve been waiting for many months, it’s time to move on because clearly the guy is just cruising for as long as he can get away with it. That being said, if he’s showing these signs, a relationship is on the cards.
There’s more going on than just sex.
Sex is great but it shouldn’t be the only thing you do on dates. There has to be more, like a mental and emotional connection. You should be making each other laugh and feeling capable of having real conversations with your clothes on.
You don’t have to nudge him for dates.
If you’re the one who’s always asking what he’s got planned on the weekends and if he’d like to do something with you, it’s time to back off and see what’s really there. He has to show that he’s keen to take the initiative and that he’s not just going along with what you decide because it’s convenient for him (and he has a pretty good chance of scoring).
He’s escalating his efforts.
Things are supposed to progress once you start dating. Contact between you at first might involve light texting, but then it should become much more frequent and include phone calls. There has to be some sort of increase in the interest he shows so you can tell he’s serious. If you’ve been dating for two or three weeks and you’re still only getting weekly texts along the lines of “Hey, what’s up?”, that doesn’t cut it. Neither do midnight texts asking if you want to go over to his place.
He’s including you in his future.
If you want to part of his future, it’s not enough that he’s invited you out a few days ahead of time. After a few weeks of dating, if he hasn’t snatched you up, he should at least be including you in his future plans — as in, beyond a week or two. This could include a concert or function he has to attend in a month or a vacation he’s taking in three months. Whatever it is, you should be on his future calendar in some way. If he talks about the future along the lines of “we,” then bonus points.
You’re with him every weekend.
If most of your and his spare time is spent together, this is a good sign. It means that out of all the other things he could be doing, he’d rather be spending time with you.
You don’t get to miss him.
You don’t bite your nails wondering when he’ll get in touch because he doesn’t give you much of an opportunity to miss him. He’s always texting, calling or making plans to see you, but not in a way that makes you feel suffocated.
You’ve met his people.
It’s always promising if a guy has brought you into his life and let you meet his nearest and dearest. It means he’s eager for people to know who you are and that you’re with him. Bear in mind that his loved ones could be different people for different guys — it might be his best friends, his family or both. FYI: his dog is not his people and really doesn’t count.
Probably the biggest sign that you’re on the road to an exclusive relationship is that the guy is consistent with his efforts. A guy who blasts you with attention for a week or so and then goes AWOL for a while is clearly not that interested in pursuing anything stable or committed. You don’t need to waste your time on a
He’s already doing boyfriend things.
He might not be your official boyfriend yet, but he’s acting like one and making you feel you’re already a couple. For instance, he holds your hand in public, he invites you out with his friends and work colleagues, and he’s cool with you pitching up at his place for an impromptu visit.
He susses out how you feel about him.
Instead of just saying how he feels about you, he’s clear about your feelings being important. After a few weeks of dating, he wants to know that you enjoy time spent with him and perhaps is even a little worried that you might stop being interested or that he’ll lose you if he doesn’t make things official. He knows relationships are a two-way street and he doesn’t want to see you snapped up by someone else. The guy is stepping up to the plate.
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