How To Love A Woman Who’s Been Hurt Too Many Times

Just because a woman has had her heart broken into a thousand little pieces doesn’t mean she’s undeserving of love. It just means you have to approach your relationship a bit differently without reopening or further damaging her deep emotional scars. Here are a few of the ways you can successfully love someone who’s been hurt too many times.

  1. Don’t rush intimacy. She’s probably been involved with a few guys who didn’t have good intentions, and she probably gave her body away too soon more than a few times. If you really care about her, you won’t rush the sexual side of things. Take your time and really get to know her. She needs to know that you really love her for who she is and not for her body.
  2. Say what you mean and do what you say. Nothing will trigger a broken girl more than a guy who sends mixed messages. This isn’t the time to play games because it’ll only push her away in the long run. Be open with her about your feelings and where you see the relationship going and she’ll slowly start to let her guard down too.
  3. Accept her and her past. If you get squeamish thinking about your girlfriend’s past history, she isn’t the one for you. She’s probably battling some inner demons that are causing her a bit of turmoil. When she begins to open up about her past, you have to accept her for her flaws and all.
  4. Tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth. She’s heard every lie in the book, and she’ll be constantly waiting for you to start spewing your half-truths and lies. Don’t be another guy who’s covering up the truth with a bunch of white lies. To love her is to tell her the complete truth no matter what.
  5. Remind her she’s beautiful from the inside out. A broken woman is likely suffering from low self-esteem and her confidence is probably in the gutter. That’s where you come into play. You’re not there to be her personal ego booster, but you should be reminding her of all her good qualities. Never forget to tell her how beautiful, smart, and strong she really is.
  6. Keep your promises. If you say you’re going to be at her house right after work, you need to show up. If you say you’re going to call her after your favorite show finishes, you should be dialing her digits as soon as the end credits start rolling. She’s used to being let down, discarded, and abandoned, so showing her that you’ll always keep your promises, no matter how small they are, will gain you entry into her heart.
  7. Understand you can’t fix her. Maybe she had her heart broken years ago, but that doesn’t mean all her wounds have healed. It takes a lot of time for her emotional scars to fade away, and you need to understand you’ll never be able to fix her. She may lash out, she might get jealous, and she may feel very insecure at times, but it has nothing to do with you. It’s all her. In time, with your love and support, she’ll be able to move on from the past and embrace a loving and healthy relationship with you.
  8. Give her space when she needs it. You’re probably used to chasing after girls when they push you away, but you don’t want to do that with this girl. If she retreats after a stressful day or after the two of you just got into a massive argument, just let her go. You can still be supportive of her from a distance, but being all in her face and crowding her personal space will only make things worse. After she has some time to process things, she’ll be back in your arms before you know it.
  9. Hold her when she’s scared. As she falls deeper in love, she’ll probably start to freak out over the new emotions she’s feeling. She’s afraid you’ll turn out to be just like the rest. When she starts to get scared over the possibility that things or moving too fast or your relationship may come to an end, just hold her and remind her that you’re not going anywhere anytime soon. Making her feel secure and giving her lots of love is the remedy.
  10. Stay consistent. This means to keep doing the things that made her fall in love with you in the first place. If you showered her with gifts and attention early on, keep wooing her. Your consistent and thoughtful acts of kindness will be a breath of fresh air for her.
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