How To Stay Optimistic When You’re Unlucky In Love

Whether you’re just getting out of a long-term relationship gone sour or you’ve been on a string of from-bad-to-worse first dates, there comes a time in the game of love when you feel like you will never win. It’s easy to get frustrated, especially when you know how amazing it can be to be in love, and when you see all your friends happily coupling up. But there’s no need to reach for the mint chocolate chip ice cream and curl up in front of the TV (even though that sounds like the perfect Friday night). Here are 10 ways to keep your spirits up and your optimism going strong when you’ve been unlucky in love.

You’ve loved before, so you know you can love again.

This is a super important thing to remember. If you’re ready for another relationship and open to it, then you know that once you meet the right person you will be all in.

It’s only a matter of time.

Even though it may feel like it, you won’t be single forever. You probably felt pretty frustrated and down the last time around, and then you met someone amazing. You never know who’s waiting just around the corner for you.

Take care of yourself.

Staying positive is hard to do without eating healthy, getting enough exercise or the right amount of sleep. Make sure you’re being kind to yourself in this in-between stage. And having the entire bed to yourself is pretty awesome.

You could meet the love of your life tomorrow.

Whether it’s a Tinder match or the cute guy standing by the chips and guac at your friend’s party, you could be super close to meeting the right person. You just don’t know it yet.

Take a month off.

Feeling burnt-out and unlucky doesn’t exactly inspire you to get out there and start dating again, even though you want to find love. Take a time-out and be by yourself for a while. Even if it’s only a month-long break, you will feel rejuvenated and ready to date again.

Enjoy being single.

Bask in the glory of watching The Real Housewives when you want to and going out with your girlfriends on the weekends.

Remember love involves struggles, too.

It’s not all flowers and pink champagne when you’re in a relationship. There can be stress, drama and silly arguments. Don’t look at love through rose-colored glasses.

Indulge in some girl talk.

We all have dating horror stories and sometimes what you need is an evening with your BFFs at your favorite bar, sharing your funny and unfunny stories over wine and nachos. You already know that strong friends make the best friends, so lean on them during this period.

Plan a weekend away.

You may be single but you still have your friends. Plan a getaway to a nearby town or city. The trip will remind you that there is more to life than finding a guy and the time away will clear your head. You’ll be ready to get back in the game once you’re home.

Set up a date when you’re ready.

There’s no better way to get back into the dating scene then to ask someone out or accept a date. While your optimism may be short-lived – sometimes it only lasts until the moment you arrive at the bar and realize the person is not quite what you thought – it will give you the boost you need to get back out there.

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