If you were to go on his words alone, you would totally believe that the guy you’re dating is absolutely crazy about you. From the way he talks, you’re the best thing since sliced bread and no one has made him as happy as you have in a long time. It’s an amazing feeling, but is it real? If you notice any of these signs, he’s not into you really — at least not as much as he claims to be. It’s better you know now before wasting any more time on this chump.
You’re always the one reaching out first. This isn’t a tit-for-tat thing and you don’t need to keep a running tally of who contacted whom first. However, if it’s literally always you texting, calling, DMing, whatever, this is one of the biggest signs he’s not into you that much. If he was, he’d be desperate to get in contact as often as possible. You wouldn’t have to chase him or entice him into a basic conversation.
He never considers you in the plans he makes. He’s totally cool making plans to go away for the weekend or even move to a new city and take up a new career without even discussing it with you. Even when it comes to the little stuff like what’s to eat for dinner, it’s his way or the highway and how you might feel or what you might think about something never comes into play. This isn’t just selfish, it’s another of those major signs that he’s not into you.
He avoids the word “we.” If you’ve been dating for a few weeks or especially a few months, he definitely shouldn’t have a problem using the word “we” when referring to the two of you, even if it’s something as simple as saying “we’re going to order pizza.” If he goes out of his way to make sure he maintains his individuality and it’s all “I” and “me,” there’s obviously a problem here. What’s his deal? I think you know. Either he’s not that interested or he’s a commitmentphobe (or both). Neither is a good option.
He still hasn’t deleted his dating profiles. He’s so happy with you and feels lucky to have met you… but he still hasn’t deleted his dating profiles. He’s not active on them, he swears, he just “hasn’t gotten around to deleting them” and it’s “no big deal,” right? Sorry, if this isn’t one of those flaming signs that he’s not into you, I don’t know what is. If he was, he’d have no trace of dating apps on his phone anymore.
He’s fine going AWOL for days or even weeks on end. You don’t have to be together 24/7 by any means – you’ve got your own busy life to lead as well – but if you’re dating someone or heading towards a relationship with them, there’s an understanding that you see one another regularly. So why is it that he’s totally cool going AWOL for days or weeks on end and doesn’t even seem to miss you? Something’s not right.
He often flakes on plans or shows up late. A guy who’s into you is one who shows up when he says he will and who makes you and your time together a priority. If he’s always flaking on or canceling your plans or avoiding making them in the first place, that’s not good. Neither is showing up late when he does actually decide he can be bothered.
He gets weird when you get emotional. Whenever you talk about your feelings for him, he suddenly freaks out. How is it that he likes you so much when he doesn’t like hearing that you like him too? It’s almost like it gets a bit too real when he knows he doesn’t feel that way about you in return. Either way, this guy isn’t worth your time.
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