What Do Men Think About When They Like A Woman?

What Do Men Think About When They Like A Woman?

You’d probably go to great lengths in order to know exactly what guys are thinking, right? Instead of all the guesswork, think of how much less stressful it would be to have it all spelled out for you in clear terms. That’s not possible, sadly, but here’s some insight on what men think about when they like a woman.

  1. Her and nothing but her Typically, the first step in liking someone is getting totally infatuated with them. Infatuation can hit guys hard, probably harder than most women realize. It’s actually rather easy for a guy to get totally hung up on a woman he develops feelings for. Of course, since men are visual creatures and tend to be a little shallow, that infatuation is all about how she looks. Our heads are full of daydreams about her all day, every day, especially if we find her incredibly beautiful.
  2. What she’s really like Of course, even shallow guys will start to move past a woman’s looks sooner or later. At some point, we start to wonder what a woman is like beyond her physical beauty. The problem here is that because guys fall for looks first, we start to like a woman before we really get to know what she’s like under the surface. We might start to think about the qualities we wish she had, almost idealizing her a little bit before getting to know her better.
  3. Ways to get her attention Most of the time, guys aren’t content just daydreaming about a woman, although that can be nice for a little while. Eventually, we want to find a way to get the attention of the person we like. Perhaps we just saw someone from across the room who doesn’t know we exist. But even if we’re acquainted with the woman we like, it doesn’t mean she likes us back. That leads us to spend a lot of time thinking about what we can say or do to get her attention with the hope of getting her to like us too.
  4. Gift or gesture ideas Guys aren’t always subtle about things when we really like someone. Usually, the best way to show someone you like them is to give them a gift. Of course, gift-giving is usually easier said than done for most men. We really want to impress you and give you something that you’ll like. This isn’t always easy to do, which is why we often dedicate a lot of our attention to picking out a present or thinking up a gesture that would be meaningful.
  5. Reciprocated feelings I have a feeling this applies to women as well. After all, when you like someone, you’re dying to discover if they might like you back. Also, the fear of rejection can be quite powerful and occupy much of a guy’s thoughts. Obviously, men who are more confident don’t spend too much time worrying about whether or not someone likes them back. However, there are plenty of us who are a little more insecure and spend a lot of time hoping the woman we like feels the same.
  6. Her girlfriend potential Let’s be clear, there is a difference between liking someone and wanting to make them your girlfriend. Also, liking someone doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready to get serious. As I said, a guy’s initial feelings about a woman are primarily based on what she looks like. We’re still not sure if we want a girlfriend or if she’ll be girlfriend material. Of course, the more we get to know someone we like, the more we begin to contemplate whether or not she would be a good girlfriend.
  7. What a future together looks like Guys usually don’t want to invest that much time with someone unless we can picture some kind of future together. This is true even when we only first start to develop a crush on a woman. We spend a lot of time pondering what things would look like if we actually started dating and things got serious. It doesn’t mean we’re going to stop liking you if we can’t envision a future together right away, but it could make us want something more casual regardless of how much we like her.
  8. What she looks like naked Yes, men are crass and a little pervy, so exactly what a woman would look like without clothes on will be something most men think about quite a lot. In fairness, it’s only natural to think about wanting to sleep with someone when you like them. It’s just that men typically get to this point a little faster than women.
Bryan Zarpentine is a freelance writer and editor whose work can be seen in many forms throughout the Information Superhighway.