We’re all searching for loyal people we can call our friends — the ones who never disappoint us by gossiping behind our backs or making us feel like we’re not good enough for them. The ones we can call up at three in the morning and know that they’ll be there to hear us sobbing about how the person we were crazy about dumped us, without any judgment or sarcasm. But, how loyal are you? If you have these 10 qualities, you’re an incredibly loyal friend and deserve all the kudos.
1. You’re Always Available To Chat.
Your door’s always open to your friends. If they need a quick pep talk before their job meeting or they need someone to listen to them vent when they’re going through a tough breakup, you’re the friend they have on speed dial. You’re extremely empathetic and put yourself in your friends’ shoes so you feel what they feel. They also know you’re an amazing listener who helps them deal with their feelings.
2. You Stick Up For Them When The World Hates Them.
If everyone’s targeting your friend and they’re being canceled from your social group, you’re the loyal friend who’ll stick up for them and stand at their side no matter what. You won’t delete your friend if a mutual friend asks you to, even if this risks your other friendships. Similarly, you won’t think it reflects negatively on you if other people dislike your friend. Friendships aren’t a status symbol for you. Nice one.
3. You’re Honest With Them.
Sometimes, friends won’t tell you things out of fear of hurting your feelings. But being loyal means being honest with your friends (without being hurtful or mean, of course). So, if your friend’s BF flirts with you behind your friend’s back, you’ll go straight to your friend and tell her what happened. If your friend’s dress doesn’t suit her, you’ll politely tell her that it doesn’t do her justice. (BTW, if you struggle with being upfront and honest about your feelings, especially in relationships, our sister site, Sweetn, is exactly what you need. They have some pretty life-changing tricks and tips that will completely change your love life for the better. Check them out here!)
4. You Shut Down Gossip About Them.
If you’re at a party and someone tries to gossip with you about your friend, you’ll quickly shut them down. You don’t do dodgy behavior to those you love because it’s so dirty. Since you’re a genuinely loyal person, you treat your friends the same IRL and when they’re not around. They never have to feel like you’re gonna jump into juicy gossip or spread rumors about them.
5. You Make Them A Priority No Matter What.
Life can pull people into different directions, such as if you get into a new relationship or snag a new job. But that doesn’t mean you should forget about your friends. You’ll make your besties a priority no matter what happens to you. So, if you get into a new relationship and your partner tries to isolate you from your friends, you’ll pick your friends over your date. Yes, queen.
6. You Celebrate Their Victories.
A good friend will be there for you when you go through dark times, but a highly loyal friend will be there for you when you succeed. When your friend gets a work promotion or meets an amazing person to date, you’re there to celebrate her happiness. You don’t go AWOL or let the green-eyed monster take over, which is what so-called friends would do.
7. You Don’t Try To Change Them.
One of the worst things is to be “friends” with someone who doesn’t accept you for who you are. You’re the type of friend who embraces what your friend’s about. You’re not going to try to change them or try to turn them into a clone of yourself. So, if your friend doesn’t like clubbing, you’re not going to criticize him for it. Or, if she loves collecting snow globes, you won’t mock her. You’re all about celebrating who your friends are.
8. Your Word Is Gold.
You promise to help your friend with their boutique opening, or you promise to call them when you have time and you keep to your word. You’re not telling friends one thing and doing another or leaving them disappointed with how you never show up. If you say you’re gonna do something, you’ll do it. It’s about respect, and you have tons of it to go around.
9. You Remember Deets About Them.
You pay attention to what your friends are about. You know what they like or dislike, and remember important details. If your friend’s allergic to seafood, you won’t order them the crab. Similarly, if they dislike guys with attitudes, you’re not going to set them up on a blind date with an arrogant guy. You pay attention to what they say!
10. You’ll Call Them Out.
A true, loyal friend will call you out when you’ve done something disrespectful or rude. If your friend’s crossed a line or acted dodgy, you’ll be honest with them about what they’ve done to hurt you. This is a sign of loyalty because it shows that you won’t just give up on your friend or tell them what they wanna hear. This is why your friends respect you and feel like they can grow from having you around.
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