You might think your relationship is on the right track, but are you sure the person you’re with is making you happy and is right for you? It can be difficult to tell, especially if you’re in the throes of lust or attraction. It’s time to face reality! If you’re noticing any of these 11 warning signs in your relationship, you’re wasting your time on them.
1. You Can’t Speak About Tough Stuff.
Even though you and your partner can chat about light topics and you always have a great laugh together, it’s difficult to talk about the deeper or heavier stuff, like where your relationship’s headed. Maybe they don’t see a future with you. Ouch. If you always struggle to communicate with each other effectively about your feelings, this is a sign of incompatibility.
2. You’re Not Being Supported.
Sure, your partner might sing your praises and remind you of why you’re awesome when you’re feeling down, but do they really step up when you need them? Are they there when you’re going through a tough time and need them to listen to you vent or be there for you in person, or do they always seem to disappear so they don’t have to be there? If the latter’s happening on the regular, they’re not on the same page as you.
3. They’re A Walking Storm.
If your partner has become moody and critical of everything, that’s no fun. It’s also dangerous because they could be rubbing off on you. If you find that you’re tired and angry all the time around them, that’s a sure sign they’re a negative presence in your life and bringing you down.
4. They Have Completely Different Values.
You need to be with a partner who has similar core values so you’re on the same page and headed in the same direction. But, if your partner’s values are very different, such as when it comes to their lifestyle choices and what they want in life, then you’re just delaying the inevitable breakup that’s on the horizon. (BTW, if you want to up your chances of actually finding someone who’s right for you, visit our sister site, Sweetn. They use the power of your mind to help you find real love. Yes, really!)
5. They’re Mixing Their Messages.
You want someone who’s emotionally available to you. Your partner might have come on strong in the beginning, but now they’re stepping back and making you think that they’re not fully in the relationship. Maybe they don’t express their feelings or they seem wobbly about commitment, both of which are major red flags. What’s up with the mixed messages? They’re so frustrating!
6. They Have Very Different Goals.
It’s essential to chat with your partner about your life goals as soon as possible. What do they want? Where do they want to live? What dreams are they chasing down? If you’ve got completely different goals, maybe even on different continents, you’ll struggle to compromise in your relationship and it can cause tons of conflict.
7. They Don’t Trust You.
Although you’re open and transparent with your partner, they might struggle to trust you because they have trust issues boiling under the surface. They might suspect you of betraying them or you might find it difficult to reassure them that you have feelings for them. This can be draining and lead to drama. It can also erode your connection.
8. You Feel Anxious Around Them.
If you get an anxious feeling when you’re around your partner even though you have fun with them, this could be a sign that you’re not as happy as you’re trying to be. Listen to that gut feeling! If you can’t get rid of the feeling that you’re in the wrong relationship, it’s not going to go away. Maybe on some level, you can sense that you’re setting and it’s not worth it.
9. Â They Make You Feel Like An Option.
When dealing with your partner, you sometimes feel like you’re not their first choice. You should be their priority, but that’s not the case. Maybe they prioritize their friends over you or they lead a life that you know nothing about. This isn’t going to magically change — do you want to live a life feeling like you’re never good enough for your partner?
10. They Brush Off Your Feelings.
Your partner should never brush off your feelings. This destroys your self-confidence and makes you feel like you don’t matter in their eyes. They should acknowledge what you feel – it’s a sign of respect! If emotional support is lacking, then you have to wonder if they really care about you or if they’re only with you because it’s convenient for them right now.
11. They Never Want To Meet Your Family.
If you’ve been dating for months and you keep suggesting that it would be cool for them to meet your family, how do they react? Do they roll their eyes, get angry, or tell you that they don’t feel comfortable doing that? Hmm. You have to wonder why. It could be that they’re not keen to move the relationship to a deeper level and they’re stalling. In other words, they’re wasting your time!
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