Sending nudes used to be such a taboo thing to do—no one talked about it but everyone did it. Then people started realizing sexting was hot, which led to more and more nudes being sent, which led to women getting their nudes leaked on the internet. If you want to send him a picture of that body that you’re oh-so-proud of, by all means, go for it—just make sure to follow these rules first.
Set your own boundaries.
Nude doesn’t have to mean completely naked. Want to send him a photo in your bra only? Don’t feel like you need to do more. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing—you’re in control of this situation. Partially nude photos can actually be way sexier than baring it all anyway. Try a sexy pose in your underwear only or a really cute bathing suit. Leaving more to the imagination sometimes gets guys more excited than the alternative.
Be prepared for other people seeing your goodies.
You have a damn good body, so be prepared that your recipient is going to want to show off that photo. If you haven’t met his friends before, just know that the first time you meet them might not be the first time they’ve seen parts of you that you don’t want to be seen. Be prepared for this but also be a good person and don’t share the nudes you receive with others without their permission.
Keep that pretty face out of it.
On that note, make sure to keep your face out of it. Send a selfie all you want, send nudes all you want, but for the love of the sexting gods, don’t send your face and nudes in the same shot just in case he turns out to be a douchebag who spreads the picture everywhere or just in case the phone gets into the wrong hands or whatever other horrible tragedy that can occur, JUST. DON’T. DO. IT. If he can’t respect that rule, then revert back to rule #1 and kick him to the curb.
Triple check that ‘to’ field.
Please, please, please don’t accidentally send your nude photo to your dad or your boss. It’s not something that can be undone. Additionally, make sure you aren’t accidentally uploading to your social media. It’s easier to do than it sounds.
Don’t send nudes to men you don’t know.
I would go as far as to say that you shouldn’t send nudes to someone you aren’t already dating or in a relationship with but sometimes we talk to people online these days for a long time before ever meeting. You may be very close to someone you haven’t met in person yet and feel comfortable sharing nudes. Only you can be the judge of whether or not you truly know someone well enough for this kind of intimacy, but please don’t send nudes to brand new guys. You don’t know them or their motivations and you need to protect yourself.
Don’t send nudes under the influence.
As most everything goes, sending nudes under the influence is a bad idea. You’re bound to forget all the other remaining rules. Next thing you know, your whole body is in the picture, face and all, and you’ve sent it to your boss and then accidentally uploaded it to Facebook.
Check your lighting and angle.
A little bit of advice that’s different than the rest. If you ARE going to send those nudes, I want you to send your best self! Take photos from above or straight on. Never take a photo from below looking up—everyone has a double chin at this angle. Try for natural light instead of harsh fluorescent light.
I, personally, have sent nudes but I haven’t sent one without receiving one first. Even if I don’t necessarily care about getting a d*ck pic, I’ll still make him go through the effort to do it for two reasons. The first is to just make him jump through hoops. The second is because I want something on him should he want to hold my nude over my head. Should you listen to my advice about only sending nudes to men you know, though, this rule wouldn’t really matter.
Most important of all, know that you don’t owe anyone anything.
Never feel like you have to send someone nudes. No one should ever feel stuck or feel guilty for not sending nudes. Too many times, I think we go along with things because we feel as if we have to for guys to like us. The right guy won’t pressure you and for the right guy, you probably will want to send sexy messages and pictures. It should all come naturally.
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